The Cellars.

Language

The Lexicon

The Lexicon preserves the language of the Lifestyle — its words, concepts and traditions. It records meaning; it never prescribes practice. Where usage varies between Houses or lineages, each is set down with equal respect.

Communication

Limits

also known as hard limits, soft limits

The activities a participant will not or may not engage in, disclosed during negotiation.

Definition

A hard limit is an activity a person will not do under any circumstances during the agreed scene or relationship. A soft limit is an activity a person is hesitant about, willing to approach only under specific conditions, or open to reconsidering with time and trust.

Limits are personal and may change. Disclosing them clearly is a responsibility of every participant, and respecting them is a responsibility of every partner.

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