Language

The Lexicon

The Lexicon preserves the language of the Lifestyle — its words, concepts and traditions. It records meaning; it never prescribes practice. Where usage varies between Houses or lineages, each is set down with equal respect.

Communication

Negotiation

The conversation in which participants agree on the shape, limits and safety of a scene or relationship.

Definition

Negotiation is the process through which participants share desires, disclose limits, discuss health and safety considerations, agree on safewords, and describe what aftercare will look like. It may be brief and specific for a single scene, or extensive and ongoing for a continuing dynamic.

Honest negotiation is regarded as one of the core skills of the Lifestyle. It is where consent becomes informed and where risk becomes shared knowledge.

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